Joining BACS is free. The only costs involve the cost of specific events. We strive to make this ministry available to as many people as possible. There is sometimes a nominal fee to cover expenses related to the event. Some events such as bocce ball or pottery painting require more of a cost. We strive to make the cost of the event as low as possible. Dinner for BACS events is covered by each attendee. Cost for events are usually very low.

BACS events are spread throughout the San Francisco Bay Area. We try to ensure we cover different parts of the Bay Area in order to make events as accessible for all. Some of these events occur at a venue and others at a church. The dinner portion is usually held at a food court type of restaurant that allows easy payment by each attendee and also ample time to mingle.

We are always looking for low cost venues throughout the Bay Area. If you have a community room, church, or even an office conference room, we would love to hear from you.

Joining BACS is free. Click here to join. There are three requirements. You must be…

• A Christian
• Single, not in a serious relationship (divorcees are welcomed after a finalized divorce)
• Open to dating and marriage (in other words, marriage is a prospect and the group is not intended merely as a singles social event)

Yes, we encourage members to invite friends. BACS is not publicly marketed so our group is spread through word-of-mouth. Please be sure to invite only friends that meet the three criteria for joining BACS. To recap, they must be a Christian, single, and also open to dating and marriage. BACS is not a fellowship group for singles but a place where singles come for the purpose of being equipped and connected with others for the purpose of dating and marriage.

We believe that there are many flaws in the Western Christian culture of dating. These problems are often only discovered after many decades of being single. We hope to bring a biblical and proactive view of dating and marriage to singles starting from high school and above. If you know of a singles group that would benefit, please connect with us. All BACS seminars are completely free.

BACS events are only for single Christians who are not in a serious relationship. If you are dating to the extent where you are not in a position to go on a date with someone else then we ask that you pass on BACS events. The reason why we keep events only for singles is to ensure that when singles come to BACS events, they can rest assured that the people they are meeting are single. Don’t worry, if you’re in a relationship, you are able to still benefit from our articles and seminars posted on our Youtube page. Check our Resources page for more.

There is no age limit to join BACS. There are only three requirements. Get more details on these requirements at our Join page.

We do not have an age limit because our focus especially for seminars is to equip single Christians. We believe that all ages would benefit from equipping. We highly encourage BACS members to follow the 10/1/1 Goal found in our Four Cups Paradigm page and team up with other singles to organize one social event a month. Although BACS events are meant to connect singles, we believe that the best connecting is done organically by other singles organizing their own events. This way, instead of one BACS event a month, the BACS community could have a dozen events happening each month.

The majority of BACS members are between the ages of 35-50.

Yes, BACS is for single Christians whether they are divorced or widowed. For those who are divorced, we ask that divorcees attend BACS events only after they have had their divorces finalized. We believe this criteria is prudent and ensures that potential relationships developed between BACS members are allowed the best opportunity to flourish.

We believe marriage is God’s gift to humanity and a blessing for all people, regardless of their religion. Marriages between Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, or even atheists are good for couples and for society as a whole, and so we celebrate marriage.

At the same time, BACS exists to equip and connect Bay Area Christian Singles from a God-centered, Bible-based worldview. This perspective shapes everything we do. Our equipping is most beneficial for those who share this Christian foundation, and our mission to connect single Christians is only effective when we provide a space where believers can meet and build relationships with one another. To stay effective, we must remain focused on who we are and who we serve.

That said, BACS has also hosted events for non-Christians, helping them see how the Christian worldview is not just a set of abstract beliefs but a framework that shapes practical issues such as choosing a spouse, understanding marriage, and navigating challenges in building a successful relationship. If you are not a Christian and would like to attend a future event designed for non-Christians—or simply wish to discuss these matters with us—we would be more than happy to make that possible.

We believe marriage is between one man and one woman.

BACS is not affiliated with a church. However, we do partner with churches who have graciously opened up their facilities for our use. BACS members come from many different churches throughout the Bay Area.

BACS is not a singles fellowship but more of a fellowship for single Christians who are intent on working towards dating and marriage. Our articles, seminars, and small group discussions are all geared towards dating and marriage. This is why the third requirement for joining BACS is to be open to dating and marriage. We believe this requirement is essential to maintain the culture of the group to empower members to come to BACS to develop friendships and explore relationships.

Our monthly BACS events which usually occur on the third Saturday of every month are broken up into two parts; the seminar and dinner. Our seminar includes a talk on a topic related to dating, marriage, and life. Interspersed throughout our seminars are small group discussions times, Q&A, and time to mingle. Our dinners occur at a local restaurant where each attendee covers their own dinner. During dinner, we break into small groups to continue a time of fellowship. Our aim is to rotate groups so that when you come, you’ll have a chance to meet everyone of the opposite sex at least once. Our monthly events usually have 35-50 attendees with our larger events about 80 attendees.

Yes! Shy personalities have more to deal with in the journey in dating. Unfortunately, it’s just an extra hurdle to overcome. We encourage everyone to conquer this obstacle with dating and marriage whether it be by joining a BACS event, another singles event, or to go on more dates.

Our BACS events are also organized in a way where it makes meeting people easy. Our aim at BACS is that when you come, you’ll never find yourself in a corner with no one to talk to. Our aim at all BACS events are:

At BACS, no one stands alone.

Our events allow ample time to mingle. We also have time for small group discussions where you are given topics and questions to discuss so you’ll never have to be frozen in fear of what to say. We also rotate you through small groups so you’ll meet everyone of the opposite sex, at least once.

Yes, dating can be. Modern dating is our society’s way of moving from being single to marriage. Arranged marriages which have happened throughout history are not practiced in the West. Whether good or bad, we live in a society where each individual, for the most part, is responsible for finding their spouse.

The church has taken a passive approach towards finding a spouse which is problematic. Too often, overly spiritualized views emphasize that singles need to pursue God, trust God, and serve Him with no desire or action towards finding a spouse. Oftentimes a desire to get married along with proactive action are seen as a person taking matters into their own hands, not trusting God.

Dating can certainly be an idol for some. But for the vast majority of Christians who desire marriage, which God says is a good thing, their problem is NOT that they are taking too much action but that they are not taking enough action.

Dating at BACS is not the same as what we see in our society. Our society emphasizes dates as a means to a good time, sex, and casual relationships. When we talk about dating in BACS, we define it as:

Intentional one-on-one time developing a friendship while exploring the possibility of marriage.

This one-on-one time does not need to be over a fancy dinner at a Michelin rated restaurant or at an expensive Broadway musical. We encourage casual hangouts over coffee, lunch, and dinners. The time is also intentional in that it’s not a get together just to hangout but it has a purpose. The purpose is the developing of a friendship. The world’s approach in dating is not to develop a friendship but often to impress the other person into wanting to be romantic partners. Dating the BACS way is all done with the overarching possibility for both parties that they are developing the friendship to see if both individuals can be good marriage partners for each other. That’s it.

A common dating approach in the church is to determine, even before the first date, if the other person is spouse material, the one God has set aside for us. We believe this approach, although sounds godly, makes the barrier to even getting to know the other person so high that most people with this perspective end up being perpetually single because they are never able to get off the ground with such a weighty standard early in the dating process.

With a more common sense approach that focuses on the friendship, we believe more Christians would be on the right path to marriage.